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Trans Advocate | Writer of LGBTQ & Parenting | Author of Horror Short Stories. | IG: zadakent

And why you should go follow them now!

If you’re not sure what TikTok is, you must not be one of the 689 million users it has worldwide. TikTok is a video-sharing platform people use to create, edit, and post short videos often less than a minute with viewers all around the globe. The tools TikTok provides make it easy for anyone to hop on and like, share, and save videos made by users. You can even “duet” someone else’s video to add your own perspective to its content.

It’s not only easy to navigate, but it’s also fun and extremely addicting whether you’re simply watching what others…

And some days I struggle to take the high road.

It’s been a while since someone left me a not-so-nice comment on one of my articles. I suppose I should be grateful for the long respite. But I think because most of my readers are open-minded, thoughtful, caring people, it comes as a bit of a shock when I read one of those dreaded responses only an ignorant asshat would write.

Sometimes I respond back, sometimes I don’t. My decision is usually based on whether or not I think the reader is simply baiting me for an argument, or if I believe they’re merely ignorant and might be open to…

Being transgender is not a choice.

Recently a well-loved family member expressed her concern for my transgender son’s future.

It’s too bad he can’t just go back to living as a girl. He has so many hard things to deal with being a boy now. And there are so many hateful people.

I love this person very much. And it’s because I love her so much, I understand her words were spoken out of ignorance and not malice. Out of a misunderstanding of love for me and my son. …

And embrace the mantra, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”

My little sister is very much the opposite of me. We both have can-do attitudes most of the time. But she has strengths that I do not. She’s blunt where I’m quiet. She sticks up for herself as loudly as she feels is needed (so sometimes, very loudly). My go-to is more just tolerating whoever the irritating individual and trying to act as if it doesn’t bother me.

She has a life mantra she says aloud when she feels it’s necessary to remind herself — or anyone else — that not everyone’s problems need to be a part of her…

And what to say instead.

Parenting teenagers can be challenging. Parenting transgender teenagers can be exhausting, frustrating, and overwhelming.

Our kids are going through all sorts of changes within themselves and we’re simply trying to help them navigate towards becoming responsible, kind, and successful adults.

Their journey can be hard on them as well as on us especially if we’re unfamiliar with what it means to be transgender.

If you want your dual journeys to be a little less fraught with tension, drama, hurt, and heartache, keep the following phrases from ever escaping your lips.

And finally, start your personal growth journey.

Fat and sassy.

Those were the words my grandmother would use any time I asked her how she was. At barely five-foot-tall and probably eighty pounds soaking wet, it took me until I was an adult to understand what she meant by that.

She was a teacher of living life to the fullest, holding dear the ones we love, and embracing curiosity in everything. These are some of the things my grandmother taught me in order to live a fat and sassy life.

Dealing with worry, doubt, & stress as a parent, how personal anthems can improve your focus, & a life lesson from the old fart in the grocery store.

Hello, My Fat & Sassy Friend!

This is the latest mini-newsletter of The Fat & Sassy Lifestyle. You can find the link to the whole fabulous issue below.

It’s hard to believe April is over, a third of the year done. The weather is warming up here and I love it. The woods is alive with green and wild grape hyacinths in patches. The morel mushrooms will be popping up soon too — yum!

The new website will be up by the end of May so I’ll be keeping you updated on that. It’s looking so beautiful! I can’t wait to share it.


Say goodbye to grocery store rotisserie chicken.

I used to buy those rotisserie chickens you find at Walmart or any local grocery. You know those little chickens that cost five or six bucks.

But since perfecting my own recipe, I’ll never buy another rotisserie chicken that’s been sitting under the heat lamps for who-knows-how-long ever again. My chickens are juicy and tasty! And it takes less than two hours to make.

I love roasting a whole bird and serving it with potatoes and greens. And then the following evening’s dinner I use leftovers to make homemade chicken noodle soup or chicken and dumplings. …

Or, how I’ve dealt with the worry, doubt, and stress that comes with parenting.

It’s no surprise to anyone that taking good care of yourself is imperative in order to take good care of others — specifically your little mini-me’s running around. But so much of your attention is focused on your kids that you easily forget to prioritize your own health. Or when it comes to mind, you dismiss it because who has time?

If you're a parent you know how common it is to put your own care on the back burner often due to time constraints or exhaustion. …

And, as a parent, how you can help.

There are three types of transitioning for transgender individuals — social, legal, and medical transitioning. All can include many different aspects of a person’s life. All of the detailed facets in this article will explore social transitioning only.

(If your child has already socially transitioned and is ready to discuss medical or legal transitioning, I believe it’s best to seek out those professionals who can help you determine what is best for your child. Every transgender individual’s journey is unique and asking for help from those who are qualified is the best advice I can give another parent.)

Regardless of…

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